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The Comparison Trap

4/29/2019

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Flashback to the early 1990s! I was a young mom, interested in homeschooling, who noticed all of these amazing well-behaved children who respect their parents. I wanted children like that!
As time went on, our family thrived with homeschooling. However, my children squabbled with one another. They were not perfect. Sigh.

Comparing Ourselves to Other Families

Over the years, I met so many moms who did so many cool things. I discovered homeschooling children who could compose symphonies, translate Dickens into Latin, and win prizes at debates. My children didn’t want to stand in front of a crowd.

My kids are amazing, smart, funny, … and flawed. Face it. We are just an ordinary family who loves Jesus. And that’s okay. We don’t have to be The Incredibles with Super Powers.

To enjoy and appreciate my children for who they are, I had to ditch comparing them with other children. You see I don’t know what goes on behind the front door of the child who can recite Bible verses in Hebrew or the six-year old who can read Jane Austen, so I will never have the full picture.

I do know this. No family is perfect. Jesus was perfect, but even His family wasn’t.

When I stopped looking at other families and started zeroing in on my own children, I could appreciate their gifts and live with their flaws.

Cultivating Strengths

My oldest daughter was a reader and a nurturer. I gave her plenty of books and opportunities to love on her younger siblings and other little ones in church. She quietly served in the nursery and babysat.

Julianna was a strong leader so I provided opportunities for her to manage projects like getting us out the door for a field trip when she was younger and planning the details of our vacation when she got older.

I looked for their strengths and capitalized on them.

Cultivating their strengths became a major focal point for me after I read a business article that said that successful peoples put 70% of their time cultivating their strengths, 25% learning new things, and only 5% of their time overcoming weakness. Wow! I had been really focusing on overcoming all their weaknesses so they could be like the other homeschooled kids I saw around me or maybe like that ideal kids I saw in my mind.

Now, homeschoolers put a lot more time in learning that 25% so I didn’t use this as a formula, but it certainly got me thinking about cultivating strengths which built their confidence, rather than making them feel over and over like they didn’t measure up.

Overcoming Weaknesses

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My children didn’t like to get up in front of an audience even though they were all gifted musically. I did challenge them to learn to sing or speak in front of an audience, but I did it gently and slowly, building their confidence. They knew I wasn’t expecting, or even hoping, for them to be spotlight people, but I did want them to communicate with others with confidence. Ironically, all of my children sing, play music, dance, or speak in front of others today.
Am I surprised?

Not really. You see their “weakness” wasn’t really a weakness; it was fear. By focusing on their strengths and putting them in many comfortable situations where they could shine, they were willing to step out in uncharted territory to try something new, even if it was out of their comfort zone.

Get Out of the Comparison Trap

How about you, Momma? Are you trying to fit your son or daughter into a mold? Do you want him to be like the boy next door or her to be like the little girl in the homeschool co-op?

You can get out of the comparison trap!

How? Start by listing your children’s strengths and then beside each strength, list ways you can help them grow in their strengths. As you find ways to cultivate their strengths, you will begin appreciating the children the Lord has given you and letting them become who God has called them to be. After all, who can measure up in the comparison trap?

For More Encouragement

Here are some more posts to encourage and equip you to homeschool with joy and success.

Ladies Heart to Heart: Love Changes Everything
You Are Loved
The Heart of Homeschooling is Love

God bless you as you raise and teach your blessings!

Warmly,
Meredith Curtis

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Meredith Curtis, homeschooling mom, writer, speaker, and publisher, loves to encourage families in their homeschooling adventure. She is the author of Joyful and Successful Homeschooling. You can check out her books, curricula, unit studies, and Bible studies at PowerlineProd.com . Free Reading Lists for all ages are available at JSHomeschooling.com. Read her blogs at MeredithCurtis.com and PowerlineProd.com and listen to her at Finish Well Radio
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    • Author Pastor Mike Curtis
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      • Joyful & Successful Homeschooling
      • Seven R's of Homeschooling
      • Quick & EZ Unit Study Fun
      • Unlocking the Mystery of Homeschooling High School
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    • Celebrate >
      • Wedding Planner
      • St. Valentine's Day Cards
      • Celebrate Our Christian Heroes
      • Celebrate Thanksgiving
      • Celebrate Christmas with a Traveling Dinner
  • Curriculum
    • HIS Story of the 20th Century >
      • HIS Story of the 20th Century Textbook
      • HIS Story of the 20th Century High School Workbook >
        • 20 Century HS Workbook Answer Key
      • HIS Story of the 20th Century Middle School Workbook >
        • 20 Century MS Workbook Answer Key
      • HIS Story of the 20th Century Cookbook
    • High School Courses >
      • Economics, Finances, & Business >
        • Economics, Finances, & Business Answer Key by Meredith Curtis
      • American Literature & Research
      • British Literature
      • Who-Dun-It Murder Mystery
      • Foundations of Western Literature
      • Communication 101: Essays & Speeches
      • Old Testament Survey
      • Worldview: Understand the Times Workbook
      • Drama
      • Career Choices & the College Decision
      • Real Men 101
      • Real Men 102
      • Real Men 103: Leadership
      • God's Girls 101
      • God's Girls 103
      • God's Girls 104: Motherhood
      • God's Girls 105: Homemaking
    • Travel God's World Geography >
      • Travel God's World Geography Unit Study/Worktext
      • Travel God's World Cookbook
    • Government
    • Unit Studies >
      • Travel to London Unit Study
      • Travel the World Country Report Lapbook
      • Celebrate Christmas in Colonial America Unit Study
      • Celebrate Christmas with Cookies Unit Study
      • Celebrate Christmas in Germany Unit Study
      • My Creation Week Lapbook
      • Lambs Exploring Heavens Lapbook
    • Teach History the Fun Way >
      • American History Cookbook
      • Ancient History Cookbook
      • Ancient History Timeline
      • American History Timeline
      • Let's Have Our Own Archaeological Dig
      • Let's Have Our Own Ancient Greek Olympics Games
      • Let's Have Our Own Medieval Banquet
      • Let's Have Our Own Luau
    • Families Learn Together American History >
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