Okay, I'll admit it. I married the most wonderful man in the world. I am so grateful that he is the father of my children. He is a man of wisdom and integrity, filled with love for the Lord and his family.
So, why did God give me four daughters to mentor and him only one son. I can't answer that, but I do notice that we already have two grandsons.
Our son came at the tail end of four daughters. Mike and I were so grateful for the privilege of raising a godly man in a challenging time.
Mike did all the Dad things: they played ball, he helped coach sports teams, he read Bible stories to him at night, the shared interests. And, of course, he was part of all the family Bible training. But things intensified as Jimmy got older.
When Jimmy got to seventh grade, it was time for one-on-one mentoring. They started meeting once a week for a time of Bible study and prayer.
Mike also worked hard to create an atmosphere where Jimmy could talk to him about anything. He shared his struggles, doubts, and fears. Mike did not respond harshly, but as someone who had been there many years before. They walked through real answers to doubts about the faith. They figured out practical ways to fight temptation. Mike taught Jimmy to read the Bible devotionally to draw closer to Jesus, as well as how to study the Word.
It isn't easy to be a young man bombarded with temptations like pornography, greed, pride, fear of man, and insecurity. Jimmy did not turn into a seasoned saint in a few months or even a year. Mike met weekly with Jimmy from seventh grade until his senior year. They still meet together while Jim is in college. Right now, Jimmy is passionate for Jesus Christ and he lives a life of integrity and love. His sisters and friends respect him and value his friendship.
You see investing in your son is a huge commitment of time, love, and prayer. There are no easy answers or quick fixes. A young man needs a father willing to invest in him, training him to become the real man God called him to be.
What did they go over? Well, they went through our real men classes (Godly Manhood, Marriage, Family, Leadership, Passing the Torch) that involve life preparation through Bible study, Scripture memorization, reading living books, and hands-on projects. The girls had taken similar classes too. But, they did something more.
Mike made a list of all the important character qualities a man needed to be a real man in today's seductive world. He has agreed to share his first year's lessons in The Making of Real Men. This discipleship manual covers passion for Christ, significance, masculinity, integrity, freedom, hard work, love, serving, humility, friendships, and God's call on each person. In the last chapter, Mike shares about the Sword Ceremony that he and a few dads had with their sons. You can purchase The Making of Real Men by Pastor Mike Curtis is available in print at Amazon. You can purchase the E-book at PayHip.
I am grateful for my husband's commitment to raise real men. I hope you will be committed to your own son, too.
For His Glory!